I have a new favorite author! His name is Iain S. Thomas. Well, he’s been a new favorite of mine since early March… which is around the time I shared a quote on this blog from his book I Wrote This For You.
Goodness. I really like him because he writes stories, prose, and poetry.
All things I obviously I love.
Wow, I am using very intense language right now: really like, love…
ANYWAYS. Iain (cause obvi he and I are pals and we’re on a first-name basis!) published a book in 2015 (almost exactly two years ago!) (wow, lots of parathesis going on here…) titled: How to be Happy: Not a Self-Help Book. Seriously.
A book I am currently reading for the second time… Yes, it’s that good.
Let me explain:
Back in March, I was sad… a lot. And often. It was kind of a problem because I really didn’t want to be sad. I would actually get really mad at times that I was sad but being mad only made me sadder. Mostly because it was the kind of sad you can’t really tell yourself not to feel, right? You just feel it every day, until there comes a day when it for some reason decides to leave you.
That’s just how it goes. I think.
All to say, my sadness and desire not to be sad led me to Iain. Well, to his book.
At the time, I was stuck in an airport terminal with six hours to kill and iBooks only gives you limited pages of a book to sample before it hooks you in for the purchase. Needless to say, it’s safe for you to assume that I most definitely bought Iain’s book on my laptop and finished it in one sitting!
I bring this up because Iain writes this book with great self-awareness. Honestly, I think I could quote his whole damn book because it’s amazing and you should go read it right now… Even if you aren’t struggling with sadness.
But, if you are sad right now… Consider this, as Iain so beautifully poses:
“I think sadness is there to make us avoid the things that are bad for us.
Sadness is a way for the person deep down inside you to take care of you, the person desperately trying to keep you alive despite everything. They reach out from the dark inside you and pinch your heart between their fingers so that you’ll stop whatever you’re doing and look around you, and wonder why your heart feels so very, very sore.”
I mean, how beautiful is that?
Your own self, looking out for your own self… Yes, perhaps this process hurts, but (as Iain shares earlier in his book) we wouldn’t really know what being happy means… if we didn’t know sadness.
(Wow, kind of sounding like the movie Inside Out, now.)
Ok, but really… Perhaps, if you are feeling sad… its actually there to help you and somehow, pave the way back to joy.
Idk, just think about it.